TRAUMA & ANGER RELIEF

There is a 2-Hour Trauma Relief Process that:

• ELIMINATES THE CONTINUING EMOTIONAL IMPACT OF:
  
• MEMORIES OF MOST TRAUMATIC EVENTS
• MEMORIES OF SHAMEFUL, HURTFUL EVENTS
• REDUCES ANGER
• IMPROVES JOB, HOBBY OR SPORTS PERFORMANCE
• ENABLES GREATER FREEDOM TO GIVE AND RECEIVE LOVE

The term trauma, in this discussion, is used to describe any life event or experience that invoked strong negative feelings of terror, fear, shame, guilt, hopelessness, vulnerability, inferiority or being trapped. Common childhood traumatic events are accidents, assaults, abuse, teasing, disappointments, losses and being criticized in anger.

Memories of these experiences often impact and limit lives of adults significantly. Have you noticed how often, after a couple has a heated argument, they cannot remember how it started. They will remember how much it hurt and the piercing words that were said in anger, but not what started the conflict. Most likely the initial trigger was an action or words that triggered an old traumatic memory. Usually when these memories are triggered, we are only aware of the emotional part of the memory. If it was a memory of trauma at age 10 years, the resulting emotions will be those of a 10 year old child. Those emotions then may trigger an old memory from when the partner was 9 years old. Then you have a 10 year old and a year old trying to protect themselves from experiences that may be 20 or 60 years old. Some memories will create anxiety, poor self-esteem, a sense of hopelessness or worthlessness.

See the article in the Frederick News-Post on October 28, 2003

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Because anger appears offensive and powerful, the concept that anger is always defensive can be difficult to accept. Most episodes of anger begin with a negative emotion that is part of a triggered childhood memory. When a parent's memory of a childhood experience that screamed, "You are  worthless!" is triggered by his/her own child, anger is likely to occur because all the feelings from the initial childhood memory come flooding back.  All the resultant anger is focused on stopping those feelings of being worthless or inadequate. The powerful angry words and physical expressions are really saying, "Don't hurt me any more, I can't stand it."

A Dan Story:

When my sons where young, they had temper tantrums and I probably blamed them when their anger triggered my anger.  Too late I have learned about the process of anger and that I have to assume complete responsibility for my anger and my anger buttons.  Frequently I see parents respond to their child's anger much as I had.  Now I have good news for them.  They do not have to depend upon their child being able or willing to change for them to be less miserable or less angry.  Usually I ask what happens when little Johnny has his tantrum and all the "nice things to do" don't work.  Usually parents will  say something like, "He pushes me over the edge and I blow up."  Then I ask, "Who do you blame when you blow up?"  There response is likely to be, "Johnny. If he did  not have his tantrum, I would not blow up." Next question is asked with gentleness, "Who do you allow Johnny to blame for his anger?"  We tend to expect children to have more control over emotions than adults!  Little Johnnies are frequently blamed for all the family anger.  I also hear parents say, "She knows how to push my buttons."


New energy therapies offer front page good news. After memories associated with "You are worthless" and other negative messages are processed with energy therapies, most anger buttons disappear. Rather than work on strategies to control anger, energy therapies enable the "work" to focus on eliminating the anger buttons.  More good news: As the anger buttons disappear people experience increasing freedom to love, to enjoy, to laugh and to have a sense of wholeness.


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